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Step 1. Do not sleep together on the first date.

Step 2. Do not sleep together on the second date.

Step 3. Do not sleep together on the third date.

Step 4. Do not sleep together on the fourth date.

Step 5. Do not sleep together on the fifth date.

Step 6. Do not sleep together on the sixth date.

Step 7. Do not sleep together on the seventh date.

Step 8. Do not sleep together on the eighth date.

Step 9. Do not sleep together on the ninth date.

Step 10. Do not sleep together on the tenth date.

Step 11. Do not sleep together on dates 11-20.

Step 12. Do not count different meals within the same day as separate dates in order to sleep together more quickly.

Step 13. Do not squeeze 20 dates into a few weeks’ time in order to sleep together more quickly.

Step 14. If you fail to wait 20 dates before sleeping together, pop your collar and forgive yourself for being incredibly attractive and irresistible.

Step 15. Do not allow dates 0-5 to have anything to do with your living room sofa or bedroom.

Step 16. Do not speak for hours at a time before the first date.

Step 17. Do not allow your first date to last 10 hours.

Step 18. Do not allow your second date to last a week.

Step 19. Do not tell the entirety of Your Life Story over appetizers.

Step 20. Do not think your chemistry means you are meant to be together “forever and ever”.

Step 21. Do not believe that you’ve “fallen in love” with someone you’ve never met.

Step 22. Do not believe that you’ve “fallen in love” after 5 minutes of conversation.

Step 23. Do not believe that you’ve “fallen in love” after 5 hours of conversation.

Step 24. Do not allow yourself to believe that you “know” someone you’ve just met because you engage in mutually pleasurable inter-subjective communication.

Step 25. Do not write/send romantic poetry or love letters in the first few weeks of dating.

Step 26. Do not sext before you’re in a committed relationship.

Step 27. Do not agree to/ask for a committed relationship before 90 days.

Step 28. Do not move in together (or spend every night together) within the first few months of dating.

Step 29. Do not share every thought or emotion you have as soon as it arises.

Step 30. Do not confuse budding intimacy with real intimacy.

Step 31. DO establish boundaries at the onset of relationship.

Step 32. DO allow for trust and intimacy to build over time.

Step 33. DO know that real, enduring love develops from getting to know someone.

Step 34. DO remind yourself that no matter how close you feel, your beautiful new friend is a stranger.

Step 35. DO recall that friendship grows from spending time together.

Step 36. DO understand that YOU are worth taking time to ensure that the person you’re involved with is a good match.

Step 37. DO understand that if you are a good match, the two of you will have plenty of time for sex in the future.

Step 38. DO have the courage to allow yourself to become comfortable with the following feelings: anticipation, uncertainty, sexual tension, nervousness.

Step 39. DO allow yourself to consciously experience romantic desires, wishes, hopes and dreams – but do not confuse your projections with the person you are getting to know.

Step 40. DO allow yourself to progressively engage in emotional vulnerability with your new friend as you establish, over TIME, that it is safe to share your heart with this person.

Step 41. DO allow your physical affection and intimacy to incrementally develop as trust and emotional intimacy grow.

Step 42. DO engage in a lot of different activities together.

Step 43. DO have an active friendship circle/social life outside of dating.

Step 44. DO have hobbies and passions that you nurture regularly.

Step 45. DO reflect on the mistakes you’ve made in the past by rushing into romance.

Step 46. DO have fun and go with the flow, while knowing that you cannot control the outcome of this relationship.

Step 47. DO remember to constantly nourish your self love and self care.

Step 48. DO maintain a playful, curious, compassionate approach to dating.

Step 49. DO throw out this list in favor of your intuition.

Step 50. DO know that you are fucking awesome, no matter what.